Pinoy Mom Talks

Five Things to Remember if you have four or more kids

2011-09-26T08:59:00.000+08:00

I have recently written about how having four kids is enough. Looking at our lifestyle now, we have taken on some habits that came about when there were already four of them.

1. FOUR OF EVERYTHING

Well, of course, you have to get four of everything right? Well, in some cases, no. Like food (since Marcus has a different diet) for example. Now that Marcus is approaching one-year-old-hood, we have to start getting four of Yakult (have to make four sets), cereals, drinks. Now, when we buy clothes, we buy one for each of them unless it's a school costume. Our relatives also have to think that there are four kids from me when they buy pasalubong.

2. BE EXTRA ORGANIZED

When there are four little kids in the house, the clothes could get out of hand! My two girls practically have the same sizes and clothes. Same with my boys too. We have somehow memorized which are thre three eldest kids' clothes. Marcus' clothes are still washed separately. Make sure your kids have separate closets or even just drawers for their things and that everybody knows how the kids' things are segregated.

3. BALANCE THE HAND-ME-DOWNS

You will think that my kids share practically the same clothes? Well, not really. While there are clothes and things that are handed down from Camille down to Marcus, I avoid letting the younger one wear clothes that they have worn a lot publicly. Hand-me-downs include their infant clothes, toys, books, sleepwear, shirts and shorts for house use and baby accessories like pillows, towels and bed linen. But for their Sunday and party clothes, I try to minimize tt to shorts and pants.

4. ALL SHOULD BE FAIR

Disciplining could get really frantic with four children. I have to say that it has been hardest with the two youngest since they practically don't know yet that some things are not allowed. But the principles of child discipline should still apply: fairness, consistency and reason.

5. LET LOOSE - SOMETIMES!

I think that of all the above things, this is the one that I want to tell myself everyday. I try to keep my house in order. When I'm at home (or when I just got home), you'll see me picking up toys, books, calling out orders to the helpers, preparing food and that kind of stuff. But sometimes, I jsut let the house be. Well, I still clean up at the end of the day. But while the kids are at it, just won't be any use cleaning up after them yet.

Four is Enough

2011-09-19T08:32:00.003+08:00

I have four kids. For someone who is somewhat of a control freak, having four little kids could get... uhmmm.... stressful. Four kids with all their little clothes, school things, loads of toys, needs, biscuits and other things usually mean a house out of control.

At four kids, I am going to say four is definitely enough for me.

Last week, for my husband's birthday, the whole family, including helpers, trooped to a local resort. For an overnighter, we had to pack at least four bags plus our baby's milk can and bottles. I usually travel light so seeing all those bags for one night in a hotel seems too much but really that's the minimum requirement for four little kids travelling.

Four is enough, how?

We won't fit in our small car anymore.
We won't fit in our dining table anymore.
We need more clothesline.
We just plainly need more space in the house!

But of course, during times when we would just monkey around in the kids' room, making one of the babies cry or pillow fighting, it just seemed more fun with four kids stepping over us (or each other). Besides, our eldest is also growing up fast so a 10-month old baby is okay.

Four is absolutely enough!

The Gift of Friendship

2011-08-10T08:58:00.003+08:00

Parents wish a lot of good things for their children: good health, safety, good future and other beautiful things in life. One of the blessings I wish my children would have is the gift of friendship.

My life has been one long loop of moving around. Born in Zambonaga, studied in Tarlac, high school in Pangasinan then Manila and now back to Mindanao in General Santoss City. As they say, north to south!

In 34 years, I have made so many friends that if I ever visit any major city in Luzon, Visayas or Mindanao, there will be somebody who will "adopt" me or there is somebody I have to meet up with or visit. I love it and I am very thankful for it!

I am very fortunate to have friends who keep in touch, who drop everything when you're in town and who you know, even without them saying, that they think of you and pray for you.

So when I travel, I really make an effort to meet up with them or to just stay updated about them. Not so difficult nowadays with mobile and online conveniences.

Now that they are still small, whenever possible, I bring my kids along when meeting up with friends or show them the kinds of friends that I have. So that they see the happiness and the love that comes from having great friends.

Not a cool mom

2011-07-31T09:22:00.003+08:00

In a post-event party of one of my events, one of the guests, seeing I was drinking and partying, told me that, all the while, he thought I was a doting mom and totally wholesome and all. I was surprised to hear that, not upset though. It made me think about the image I portray through our get-togethers and our facebook interaction.

Doting mom I maybe. (That sounded Jedi-ish.) But cool... still working on it.

I am saying I am not yet a cool mom in the sense that I am absolutely strict about a lot of things. My children know already at their young age that there are a lot of things that they are not allowed to do and will cause me to be upset.

I do not allow them to go playing all on their own, eat all the sweets that they want, throw tantrums, insist on what they want, among a whole of other things.

If being cool means being tolerating of wrong doings then maybe it's not for me. Although I dream of being called a cool mom. I think there are other ways to show cool mom-ness other than making boisterous, undisciplined people out of my children.

Growing up in a strict family, I have learned at this age that my family's stringent childrearing has done me well. I want my kids to grow up in the same way. At the same time, I want my children to be comfortable with me and know that they can tell me anything.

So cool mom-ness, we'll get there. But for now, I would rather be just doing the role God meant for me: to raise children with the right moral values.

Parenting by Example

2011-07-17T08:00:00.000+08:00

As they say, children are like sponges. Their mind works around the thought that "if the adults are doing it, it must be the right thing to do". I totally agree with this and it has become an unspoken rule in my household that the adults who get to stay here be good examples to the kids.

The helpers and our relatives who visit understand that when around the kids, there is a certain level of discipline and good manners that is required.

Looking at my children now, we must be doing something right. They are recognized in school for being well-behaved, we are appreciated for their good behavior and our house is a lot more peaceful than our neighbors.

They see that their parents are not quarreling (not in front of them anyway), that no foul words are spoken and that even the helpers try to be well-behaved in front of them. I know that the time will come when they will be exposed to really nasty things later on. I pray that they will learn from what they see and not be damaged by them.

We, parents, have a huge responsibility to be good examples to them in all aspects. I do not believe in exposing children to the reality at their early ages. I believe in arming them with enough good values and manners enough to resist the bad ones they will encounter later on.

Raising Kids to be Practical

2011-07-10T08:31:00.000+08:00

I would always hear from fellow parents in my generation that their kids now are so picky about clothes and have so many things in the most unusual designs.

I would always feel surprised and sad. Well, because, we, parents, are supposed to have control over our children's behavior and consequently, their spending and purchases. When parents complain about their children's misbehavior, I am surprised why they even complain.

One of the things I hope parents would teach their children is the value of FUNCTIONALITY or BEING PRACTICAL. The most important reason being it curbs adult spending problems later on in life. It also helps the environment. It also helps your child's well-being.

We, parents, should instill in our kids the value of materials things. How they should be taken care of to last longer, that not all things need to be replaced at once. We have to teach our kids that people do not have to be measured by the brand or the quantity of their shoes or shirt but by whether what we wear are clean and presentable.

Some families might have a difficult time doing this because this would mean "fighting" their lifestyle or their financial capability. When you can buy anything you want, why should you take care of the things you have?

Children who grow up seeing their parents value their things until they are practically unusable and irreparable grow up doing the same thing. This means lesser possibility of them being impulse buyers and spending for things they do not need.

Key Things You Should Know about Taxes

2011-07-08T09:45:00.002+08:00

I have to say that I am clueless about taxes like most anybody. When I have any inquiry about it, I ask from accountants I know or the net for answers.

In the Philippines, filing of income tax returns monthly and annually are filed for employed people by their human resource or administrative officer. It's a whole different thing for self-employed people.

To give you an idea on the key things you should now about taxation for married people in the Philippines.

Income tax percentage is applied progressively depending on your income. This percentage ranges from 5 to 32 % for incomes ranging from P 0 to P 500,000 and above respectively. The 32% percentage applies to income P 500,000 and above.
Filing of income tax returns is done annually every April 15th. This date is set and in the Philippines, there is no tax extension or anything of that sort so your returns have to be filed on or before that date. Otherwise, fees are going to be added for interest and late payments.
Deductions for every live child is

Personal Exemptions:

From BIR's website:

For single individual or married individual judicially decreed as legally separated with no qualified dependents………………………………………P 50,000.00

For head of family……………………………P 50,000.00

For each married individual *…………P 50,000.00

Note: In case of married individuals where only one of the spouses is deriving gross income, only such spouse will be allowed to claim the personal exemption.

Additional Exemptions:

For each qualified dependent, an P25,000 additional exemption can be claimed but only up to 4 qualified dependents

The additional exemption can be claimed by the following:

The husband who is deemed the head of the family unless he explicitly waives his right in favor of his wife
The spouse who has custody of the child or children in case of legally separated spouses. Provided, that the total amount of additional exemptions that may be claimed by both shall not exceed the maximum additional exemptions allowed by the Tax Code.
The individuals considered as Head of the Family supporting a qualified dependent

The maximum amount of P 2,400 premium payments on health and/or hospitalization insurance can be claimed if:

Family gross income yearly should not be more than P 250,000
For married individuals, the spouse claiming the additional exemptions for the qualified dependents shall be entitled to this deduction

Again, there is no tax extension for filing of income tax returns so prompt filing is definitely needed.

Should you have any more questions, you can refer to the BIR's official website.

Ask your children if it's good or bad

2011-07-04T08:00:00.003+08:00

In the Philippines, a lady politician punched a sheriff amidst a demolition riot and made headlines for several days. It gave her a new title, "Kamao" or in Filipino, meaning "fist", apparently replacing Cong. Manny Pacquiao as Pambansang Kamao. I will not delve into the whole story anymore but if wish to get into the whole story, you can read a news story here.

It split the country in half as to whether it was an appropriate action or not.

For a lot of people who live or are from her city, she was looked up to as a HERO. They felt that what she did was right and that the sheriff "deserved" the punch. The city she's governing has been known to be ruled previously by her father in a rather strict manner. Admittedly, it has become a city known for discipline and progress.

Others think it's absolutely uncalled for. Some even think it was a "show" just to instill their authority all the more.

In one of the early Facebook threads about this issue, one acquaintance said the best way to settle this issue. ASK YOUR KIDS IF WHAT SHE DID WAS RIGHT.

Right from the start, I personally thought it was definitely inappropriate. It may have achieved whatever objective she had for doing it but from the point-of-view of someone trying to raise children in a good way, it's what I call "bad parenting by example".

Yes, this country needs some straightening up. At the same time, I believe that it is not necessary to succumb to such shocking and actually unlawful behavior and action.

Does your child have a tutor?

2011-06-30T18:18:00.003+08:00

My children don't have tutors. Here's why.

When we send our children to school, it is with the unspoken wish that they'll learn from their teachers. Sometimes, kids don't come out with good grades in a certain subject. Some parents panic! Get a tutor, send to Kumon, change vitamins or milk and the like.

I think parents should keep their cool and just let the school address this. This is because, well, they are already in school. Do we really need to extend their studying hours unnecessarily? When we were kids, we didn't have tutors. Should it be different now? Admittedly, the curriculum of our kids are more advanced. But I believe that this curriculum would not be put in place if the education experts have not studied it and found it feasible for their age.

My eldest last year had a remediation notice for social studies. It was just a notice that she MIGHT need remediation. I waited for another letter and just told Camille to study harder. I am glad also that my children's school does not encourage having tutors.

If your kids can survive on their own in studies, that is one early life lesson we can teach them. I would feel really proud of my children if their grades and merits are all out of their efforts alone. Yes, we, parents are there for the things they cannot do on their own like buy materials for projects or produce a family picture or bring a costume. But for everything else within their capability, we should not do school work for our kids nor bring in more work for them by sending them to the tutor.

Disciplining children needs consistency

2011-06-27T09:12:00.003+08:00

My children are now seven, five, two and seven months old. My first three kids are already being taught manners and rules as early as two years old. They are appreciated for good behavior and reprimanded for bad behavior. Sometimes, a spank on the hand or on the butt is given when necessary. Some people would say this is too early. For me, these ages, 2 to 6 years old are the best time for instilling discipline in children.

I am thankful that my husband shares my disciplining principles. We also do not contradict each other in front of the children when the other's act is not entirely to the approval of the other.

One thing that has proven to be really effective is being consistent. Being consistent means sticking to a principle or upholding a rule no matter what. This sounds like military training but it isn't as harsh as that. It's simply being consistent. If you tell your kids that watching telenovelas is not allowed for them, then it must be the rule at all times with whoever is watching over them.

One thing that also spells consistency is not talking about your children's not-so-cute antics in a way that would seem like you are actually proud of what they did. You always see this. Parents talking to their friends with the kids around and the topics goes around to something your child did that was a little bit nasty but cute. For the child, this means "Oh mom sounds like she is proud of what I did."

Consistency in disciplining need not be all reprimand. Most of the things we need to teach our kids are those that we need to remind them everyday. Put your clothes in the hamper, finish your food, don't watch tv while eating, put your shoes in the rack and that sort of stuff.

Remember, kids who are taught good values basically carry these on to their adulthood. If they become well-mannered individuals, they will make you proud.

Moms can benefit from tech too (a lot!)

2011-06-24T08:27:00.002+08:00

I do not claim to be a techie nor am I fond of collecting gadgets. I am more of the functional kind of consumer. If my phone can text and call, I am very happy already. However, in these days, when a mom has be a supermom multitasking and working sometimes, applications on phones and the computer are becoming a big help.

In my case, I am fond of lists. I have written previously that I have a list for everything. Now, sometimes I cannot go grocery shopping so I ask my husband to do it for me. Although, most of the time, we go together. Instead of emailing him the shopping list or giving him the list itself, I input it into our springpadit.com account and he gets it. This springpad website is great for organizing and I recommend it.

On a daily basis, I benefit from the net by checking out recipes, reading articles or just staying sane with four kids at home. My kids get to watch their favorite movies on the DVD player or the desktop.

Even the most common of gadgets are my savior. Sometimes, when there is something that needs to be listed or copied, I just whip out my reliable point-and-shoot Kodak easyshare and take a photo. Saves me a lot of time and effort. Just pop the SD card into the computer and you get what you need copied.

So many iPod apps have also helped me at one time. Like when I gave birth, my husband installed a contraction timer. It was a great tool! When my contractions start he starts the timer and ends it when my contractions end. The app automatically computes interval between contractions and length of each contraction. My husband also has a egg timer app. It helps you assist the kind of boiled egg you want.

I will admit that I am still using a real planner (the one made of paper, you know) for my schedule. But for everything else, from address books to shopping lists, it's all digital for me.

How about you?

Marcus at 7 months: Cuter than a button

2011-06-22T10:35:00.001+08:00

My youngest child, Marcus, would have all the superlatives in all my child rearing years. He is the cutest, the fattest, the healthiest, the most mobile infant of all my children.

Aside from being obviously huggable and, in tagalog, gigil-able, he is the most active and most "everywhere" in the house. He is noisy, he eats a lot, drinks a lot of milk, sleeps for about 2 hours at a time. He has probably tasted all the walls and chairs in the house. He has also brought down )and tasted) a lot of our books. So now, I have already rearranged our books and the ones nearest the floor we cannot find any more space anywhere higher are packed so he cannot pull them.

He is adorable!

(That's all. I just want to write about him. Moms.)

3 Simple Things You can Teach Kids to help the Environment

2011-06-19T19:40:00.004+08:00

It's June and it's Environment Month.

Even at an early age (my kids are still in early grade school), I believe it is absolutely possible to start teaching your kids to be environmentally friendly. My kids are already into this since they were 2 years old so basically, they got these down pat for some years ago.

Here are three simple things you can start teaching them.

PUT YOUR TRASH IN THE PROPER BIN. Anywhere they go, my kids are told to put their trash in the trash bin. In school, malls, parks, beaches, pools, at home and even when in streets. I would always be upset to see food wrappings, junk foods at that, scattered just outside our fence knowing that some kid or maybe adult just dropped their trash there. Disposing of your trash properly is a sign of discipline and good manners.

USING SCRATCH PAPERS. Like any other child, my kids L O V E T O D R A W. They can practically do it all day. So I do buy them coloring books and drawing books. At the same time, I also tell them that they can use the back of my used papers. It shows them that even trash paper can still be used for their enjoyment and that it is important not to throw paper espedcially if you've just printed on one side.

SAVE ON WATER AND ELECTRICITY. We encourage our kids to save on water and electricity and praise them when they turn off lights when not in use or when they drink all the water in their cups.

Father's Day

2011-06-19T08:13:00.001+08:00

This Father's Day is the biggest so far for Milper.

Because this year, he's celebrating it with four kids now!

It's a wonder how a person's love can be stro

nger and greater even with more people to love and to care for.

Milper's love for us is exactly like that.

I hope he feels appreciated for all his efforts and I hope I and the kids make him feel loved too.

Because we definitely do!

Happy Father's Day, Milper!

Are your in-laws as cool as mine?

2011-06-17T09:53:00.003+08:00

This will surely get mixed reactions and emotions for married people as I am sure that not everyone is blessed with great in-laws like I am. For other married people, the topic of in-laws might not be a good idea to write about. Heck, it might even bring back bad thoughts or unpleasant memories.

In my case, I have to say I am lucky.

My husband's family are as supportive and as kindhearted as a bestfriend. If this is not enough words to say how great they are.

You might say, "Well, you probably don't live with them in the same house." You are right. My in-laws live in another place. Which is exactly why some of you married people should try to get your own place. Admittedly, it might be inevitable for some of you to do that. However, I know there is a way for us to live in harmony.

My mother-in-law, with senior citizen card and all, dresses more fashionably than me. She can dance and party like a yuppie. She is no KJ and has energy to go shopping all day. My father-in-law is a gentle, soft-spoken man who is just all supportive and understanding of his children.

My sisters-in-law and only brother-in-law are respectful, polite and definitely fun to be with. I do wish sometimes, though, that we all had more time to spend together than the occasional vacation or visit for the kids' parties.

If you have not been as lucky, don't worry, we all do not get to have everything. For me, I have been blessed in this aspect of married life.

Menu Planning: If you are not doing this yet, try it now!

2011-06-13T23:30:00.000+08:00

I live a fairly busy life. Mom, wife, consultant, event planner, social life, grocery, doctor appointments, you get the drift. It's basically crazy most of the time.

Aside from religiously listing my tasks and logging in appointments and school meetings in my planner, there is one other tool I find time to do.

It's menu planning. One of the God-given capabilities for men and women alike that can probably lessen your stress and the time standing in front of your pantry or ref figuring out what to whip out for breakfast or dinner.

Basically, menu planning needs the following:

List of dishes you can prepare
A weekly calendar which you can write at the back of a used paper or a notebook
About 15 minutes of your time weekly

I menu plan every week preferably on a Saturday. Plot out the days of the week and across the row divide into breakfast, lunch and dinner. In my case, I add another column for Baon because my husband and eldest daughter eats lunch in the office and school respectively.

Write under each day and meal the dish you plan to cook. Example, breakfast under Monday can be eggs and corned beef and for lunch on Monday, Chicken Tinola. Keep inputting dishes until you complete all meals for all the days. I keep Saturday and Sunday blank because usually there are eat outs on those days and parties too. In my case, I go further in choosing dishes I can cook in advance which the helpers can just reheat for dinner when I have late afternoon meetings. (I don't like hurrying home to cook dinner.) I also choose dishes my husband and Camille can have for packed lunch. Sometimes, I cook all of them in the morning, breakfast, lunches and dinner! (Yes, I do that!)

Then from your menu plan, list the ingredients you need to cook these dishes and include them in your next grocery shopping. Simple!

Here are a few great things about planning your meals ahead.

You can minimize vegetable and ingredient spoilage because you just buy what you need.
The principle of JIT or Just in Time. This sure sounds kinda-over for most but for me, it's good to be able JIT because I don't have to buy all that I need but only what my menu needs for the meantime.
Diet- Menu planning is a great way to implement your diet plans that have been long neglected because of temptations and other surprises.
Spend less time thinking every time you cook. You can get right into it by just referring to your menu plan.

Let me tell you something: despite my seemingly OC personality, my menu plans are written at the back of scratch papers and book paper flyers distributed in our village. It can be written in any way for as long as it's something you understand at a glance.

If you don't want to think or want to get an idea, Good Housekeeping has a monthly menu plan inserted in each issue.

I will be honest that sometimes, I do not get to to this. I wish I could do it as religiously as I update my datebook. But anyway, it's never too late to start right?

Happy menu planning!

Pinoy Mom Talks: The Language Situation

2011-06-11T23:28:00.000+08:00

Pinoy Mom Talks: The Language Situation: "One of the things that are included in my helper's orientation is the language or the way the kids are to be spoken to. We speak in both En..."

The Language Situation

2011-06-11T11:44:00.001+08:00

One of the things that are included in my helper's orientation is the language or the way the kids are to be spoken to.

We speak in both English and Tagalog to our children. Even though we live in Gensan where Cebuano or Bisaya is the predominantly spoken dialect, we have not started teaching them Cebuano. This is because we are prioritizing teaching them English and Tagalog just to make the absorption of the languages easier. We also feel that they will eventually learn Cebuano in school.

So as I was saying, we tell our helpers to speak to the kids in English and Tagalog. The funny thing is, as our helpers stay with us, they do get the kids' accents and learn even the common phrases that are used with the kids even for our helpers who did not get far in their education. We hear them speak English with a twang.

What we really have difficulty with is the way the kids are learning Cebuano from classmates. It's what I call Bislog, mixed Bisaya and Tagalog with dollops of Cebuano accents here and there. I don't mind them learning Bisaya but I want them to speak it pure, not mixed with a Tagalog grammar here and there.

However, as it is, I am happy with the way the kids are learning English. (Camille and Maxinne do get "Best in Speaking English" awards in school.) I would say, though, that their Tagalog could be better.

How about you? What is your first language at home?

My personal saving tips for school opening shopping

2011-06-05T11:18:00.003+08:00

I am going to brag that I already finished shopping all my kids' school needs last month. I just like doing this ahead of everybody so that I don't have to join the school shopping rush.

I only have two kids going to school and I've only been sending kids to school for four years now but I already have gotten the tricks of the trade, I would say.

Here are my five tips to saving and/or spending unnecessarily for the new school year.

# I. REUSE.

I believe in function over fashion and even over "showing off". My kids' black shoes from last year were still okay so I didn't buy them new ones yet. Camille's preschool small trolley bag still looks brand-new and she used it like two years ago. I kept it, wrapped it well and this year, my Maxinne will use it.

# 2. BUY JUST WHAT IS NEEDED.

I am thankful that my kids' school gives out a list of school supplies and toiletries needed early in April. Parents who want to buy their materials ahead can do so. At the same time, parents can plan their budget and buy only what is needed in school. If your kid's school does not do this, ask their teachers for the number of subjects. Buy for the first two months so that you buy only as needed.

# 3. GO FOR GOOD QUALITY.

Unfortunately, in children's products, the good quality ones are more often than not the pricier ones. This applies to shoes, school bags, pad papers, notebooks, ballpoint pens and other small items like sharpeners and erasers. I personally would rather pay a good price for bags than have to buy another one in the middle of the year. If you try to scrimp on it and end up buying two in a year's time, it will end up more expensive for you.

So are you ready for the new school year? I hope you already are. Goodluck to all of us!

What mom didn't tell you about motherhood

2011-05-08T09:08:00.002+08:00

Mom didn't tell you that,while feeding kids vegetables is a must, feeding them potato chips and lots of ice cream is also satisfying.

Mom told you that kids should be allowed to run outside and bask in all the sunlight and dust to boost their immune system, but she didn't tell you that in these uncertain days, an adult should be constantly monitoring them.

Mom didn't tell you that, innocent as angels they are, kids have the ability to make adults realize important principles in life.

Mom didn't tell you that why you keep having kids despite all the pains and adjustments that come with pregnancy and a new baby.

Mom didn't tell you that, for some mothers, you will not feel an overwhelming love for kids all the time and would want to run away from them for a while. This feeling will go away. After a few hours of taking a break, you'd want to be back with them.

Mom didn't tell you that drawing and singing and dancing are talents needed from a mom especially in preschool.

Mom didn't tell you that spanking kids are much more painful for parents than they do kids on the bum.

Mom didn't tell you that preschool doodles and stick figures could bring tears to a mom's eyes.

Mom didn't tell you that a baby's smell can take away all the stress in the world.

"Idle"

2011-04-25T09:58:00.000+08:00

The two weeks before Holy Week have been really crazy weeks for me. Just when I thought, I would not have time to take a break despite being it Holy Week, I did and I am really thankful.

I got to slow it down starting Maundy Thursday up to Easter Sunday. I did go to work for some hours on Black Saturday but it was basically leisurely (it was a food tasting, how can I complain?) and not cerebral so it was good.

With the four-day break, I got to spend time with my family. I had lots of cuddling time with our baby Marcus. We also had time to watch a lot of movies together. Personally, I got time to read a book which was really great since I definitely love books and I have been passing up on this great pastime because of work.

Above it all, I had time to breathe and just be idle, something I rarely get to do. I am constantly thinking and planning and thinking and planning!

For Good Friday, my family and I did our annual Visita Iglesia. I also promised not to check my facebook nor touch any computer of any form until Black Saturday. Good sacrifice, if you ask me.

I am writing this on Easter Sunday and I am excited to get on another busy week. I hope you had a meaningful Holy week as well.

My Dream of Financial Comfort

2011-04-21T14:08:00.004+08:00

I am at a point in my life where I am concerned about my family's financial stability. Currently, we are doing really well. I must admit that having four kids is quite a financial handful. A new baby is definitely expensive and preschool education is too.

That's why my husband and I work hard to keep up with the house expenses. As I was saying, at this point, I am already thinking about 5 years and beyond. I want to be extra-ambitious! I don't want just to be able to pay the bills and have something extra. Simply put, I want to be rich. Might be too worldly, but hey, I know in most people's hearts, they wish the same thing too. Being rich is not bad at all. It's what we do with being rich that could be good or bad.

What do I exactly dream about? I want to be able to put aside a big amount of money for my children's education up until college. I want to have two cars: one for my husband and one for me and my kids. With a driver preferably because I don't think I really want to drive because of my poor eyesight. I want to have two or three major businesses of my own and several investments. I want to have a brokerage account that will take care of other possible investments. I want to repay all the people who have helped me in the past. A retirement plan would surely be included too not just for me but for my mom and my aunts as well.

I am 34 now and my goal is to gain this in five years. I know, I know. It's totally impossible at this point. But I have big hopes. As they say, to dream is free so I'm going to dream big!

Holy Week Then and Now

2011-04-12T20:36:00.003+08:00

I was born into a very religious family. So Holy Week means really, really being extra-mega prayerful and, well, quiet.

I remember our Holy Weeks in the late 80s and very early 90s. I would be in elementary around those years. Holy weeks meant no regular TV programming starting Holy Monday till Easter Sunday. Add to that, no meat, no noise, no radio, no laughter and sometimes, no bath! Yes, we were prohibited from bathing, cutting our nails, getting a scratch or a wound for fear of it not healing faster than usual or not healing at all.

My brothers and I would spend Holy Weeks tending to house chores and going to church. If we got a tad-noisy or laughed, we were scolded. Our menu was made mainly of vegetables. Absolutely no pork or chicken or beef which was no problem with us since, being Ilocanos, we love vegetables anyway. Malls are practically closed the whole week too.

Nowadays, it's totally different! We have TV shows though much mellower and not the regular programming. The only day that malls are closed now is on Good Friday. Which is not entirely a problem since there are other establishments you can go to anyway that cater to the non-Holy week observing clients.

I will admit that my being religious has been reduced in recent years. I am still praying and believing in God but my devotion to Catholic rituals has been diminished. I believe that what is important is that you have faith in God, that you treat others well and that you bring glory to God by your deeds.

For others, Holy Week remains to be a week of devotion and solemn praying and church visits. On the other hand, it has become "a week to breathe" and to catch up on family and friends, on vacation. Whichever manner you choose to spend your Holy Week is up to you. For me this year, it's going to be simply time I will spend solely, mentally and physically, with my family.

Do you have your husband's ATM?

2011-04-09T14:23:00.002+08:00

I am pretty sure this is going to make a lot of wives ponder or ask, "Why do you want to know anyway?".

Do you have your husband's ATM? Does he give you his pay envelope straight from the payroll releasing clerk?

I don't have my husband's ATM nor do I ask him to give all his earnings to me. Here's why.

It's his money and he has primary right to it.

I didn't ask for his ATM nor his whole paycheck turned over because I recognize that it is he who worked hard for that money. Personally, for as long as he provides well for the family's needs, I don't have to know how much he earned. Now that I'm writing this article, I actually don't remember how much his salary is. Although he does show me his yearly tax returns and salary adjustment documents.

In my opinion, when you take someone else's card, it's sort of intrusive and selfish. Yes, you're married but I believe that there are still things a married couple should retain like their individuality, friends, family and a whole lot of personal things. I think this decision not to mind my husband's finances stems from my own capability to earn money and my husband's good reputation in being trustworthy and faithful.

At the same time, I know of husbands who really voluntarily "surrender" or endorse their entire income to their wives.

For me, getting married does not, or did not, mean giving up these kinds of things. There are still parts of your life that should remain yours.

The Choices a Mom Has to Make

2011-04-07T22:09:00.003+08:00

My days recently have been uber busy.

Two accounts, four kids, summer classes, no helper. I am just thankful my mommy is here to see to my kids. I would have made this a reason to excuse myself temporarily from work but some tasks are just time-critical at this point that I can only pursue them.

Today, I was glad to see a break from the late night schedule and went home earlier than usual. I was so happy to get home while the kids are still awake! To others, this might sound trivial. But to a mom like me with a crazy schedule, the meager time I am able to talk to them and have dinner with the family is PRECIOUS. I got to chit-chat with my two girls before their bedtime, put my five-month-old baby to sleep and watch TV with hubby. My heart is just welling up with emotions while writing this article.

I do have a choice to just stay home but I choose to work part-time as well. Not that motherhood is insufficient, but having a life and a career aside from family life is important for my self-esteem. It keeps me sane. At the same time, I know, that if I have to choose between working and taking care of the kids, I will choose the latter.

Raising Kids who Read

2011-04-05T21:38:00.003+08:00

When my kids slumped down on the couch for some book reading, I quickly took the opportunity to immortalize the scene.

My husband and I love food, movies and books. Personally, books are my reward to myself for every project finished. So we definitely encourage our kids to read. We buy them books, praise them when they read and give them, well, more books.

At the same time, we show them that we love books too. My husband may not be too helpful on "ACTUAL" book reading now since he reads e-books now. But I still read real books. I also make sure that we drop by a bookstore when we go to the mall.

Reading books is one good habit I pray my kids would stick with them till they're all grown up.

5 Tips in Caring for newborn skin

2011-03-27T19:05:00.003+08:00

My fourth child, Marcus, is now five months old. Though he is already past the super-fragile stage, we still maintain all our childcare habits which we applied to all our children from birth.

My family is extremely strict when it comes to hygiene in little children. Some of the things I do to my kids have been passed on from generation to generation in my family. Kids' skins are very sensitive and any little wrong procedure may irritate their skin or even worse, their health.

Here are my Five Tips to caring for your newborn's skin.

# 1 LACTACYD BABY BATH for the first two months

I used Lactacyd baby bath with all my kids. I personally like the scent and that it washes quite easily.

# 2 PERLA for their laundry

All my baby's clothes are washed exclusively using Perla. In the Philippines, it is a quiet, dependable brand that has withstood so many large brands and time. I think it is made using coconut oil. It does not contain skin-irritating ingredients and leaves a white residue on water when the clothes are being rinsed. It comes now in like four colors or variants but I only use the white one as it does not leave any color on the clothes.

# 3 BATHE THEM TWICE A DAY!

It does not mean that because they are babies, that they do not get dirty thus not need to bathe. On the other hand, they throw up, mess up their milk, pee and poop practically the whole day so they actually need washing. If you are not okay with bathing them twice a day, it is okay to do it once an day and a warm sponge bath before bedtime.

#4 Change linen every other day or as necessary.

When my baby is days or weeks old, I change their bed cover and pillows almost everyday. As they get older at around three months onwards, the frequency gets down to twice or three times a week.

# 5 Separate washbasins and washing altogether

I always make sure that our newborn's washbasins, hangers, dipper and hamper or basket are exclusively for the baby's clothes only. Their clothes are washed separately altogether using only Perla until they are around one year old.

Aunt Ludi's Summer Baking Workshop for Kids

2011-03-25T13:46:00.003+08:00

It’s summer once again! What better way to spend it than to learn a new skill like BAKING!

I am inviting you to Achi Jen’s Fun Kitchen, a summer baking workshop for kids and teens. It is a 5-day hands-on baking workshop where you will learn basic baking and kitchen techniques, cookies, cupcakes, brownies and bars and many more.

Classes will be grouped according to age bracket. 7-12 years old belong to the Kids Group while 13-18 years old belong to the Teens Group. A maximum of 5 students per class will be accepted to ensure that proper guidance is given to everybody. You may choose between M-W-F and T-TH class schedule. Morning sessions are from 9:30 to 11:30am. Afternoon sessions are from 2:30 to 4:30pm. Classes start on April 4, 2011.

The fee for this workshop is P3,000. The fee is inclusive already of recipes and ingredients. Apron, kitchen gloves, hair cover and drinking water are already provided for. All you need to bring are food containers to bring home what you have created for mom and dad to taste.

The Fun Kitchen is located at the 2^nd floor of #49, Hicban Subdivision, Lagao, General Santos City.

Enrollment forms are available at all Aunt Ludi Bakeshoppe branches or you may download the form atthefunkitchen@wordpress.com

For more information, please email me at funkitchen168@yahoo.com.

Filipino Household staple # 1: Walis

2011-03-22T10:58:00.003+08:00

I cannot start to describe how a Filipino home could be without the ever-reliable broom or walis tambo. Asking a Filipino mom if she has a walis is like asking Captain Hook if he really has a hook.

We, Filipinos, generally like to keep our houses clean, sweeping the floor at least once a day.

Other cultures might not understand this. The Philippines is practically still a dusty place. Beautiful, tropical, quiet, yes. But it sure is dusty. That's why we always have a walis in our homes. Even the homes of the rich and famous have at least one.

This walis has two variants, if I may say so. The tambo and the tingting. The tambo or soft broom is what we use inside our homes to sweep the floor. Aside from the floor, we also use it to reach cobwebs (we get up on chairs) or to smash an unwanted insect like the cockroach to death.

My family lives in Northern Philippines and we like to buy our brooms from Baguio where the brooms are about P 200 now or about $ 4. Good quality, thick yet soft broom.

The other kind, walis tingting, is what we use to sweep dried leaves from backyards and lawns. It's like a giant version of Pick-up-sticks only this are in one color. The tingting or sticks come from the thin middle stalk in anahaw leaves.

On any given day, I will prefer to use the walis tambo over a vacuum on non-carpet floors. There is some kind of mental satisfaction that comes from the dust gathering with every stroke of the broom.

My wee little house has two brooms just in case. (smile)

Marcus' Choco-Mint themed Baptism Lunch

2011-03-09T22:00:00.005+08:00

Last Sunday was a special day for the Bolodo Family as it was the christening of our youngest, Marcus.

As with my kids' previous parties, I always have a theme. And as always, I didn't want to be confined to blue (because he's a boy) or to cartoon characters. So this time, I chose choco-mint.

First thing I did was order cupcakes. The confectioner had to test the cupcakes as they have not done choco-mint cupcakes before. They turned out good.

Next, the centerpieces. For the tables, I used cheap light green placemats and divided them into two to make a mini-holder for the shot glasses I placed on top filled with chocolate wafer sticks and other kinds of chocolates. It was my first edible centerpiece and I loved it. I also printed a small thank you card for a more personal touch.

The buffet table decor was super cheap and still in theme. i Cut out letters M, A,R,C,U and S on brown and two shades of green construction paper. Pasted them on circle papers and attached them to popsicle sticks (I used three sticks to make a long one). I attached ribbons under the circle paper and stuck into potted plants. You can also vary the height for a little dynamic effect.

My greatest find while putting this party together are these giveaways: paper baby shoes with the design from the children's storybook Guess How Much I Love You. (They come in other designs too.) Ordered them from a college friend and filled them with different kinds of chocolates. They were a hit!

Birthday gift suggestions

2011-03-07T08:03:00.000+08:00

I have two kids who are already going to school. One of them is a seven year old Grade 1 student and the other one is still in preschool. Late last year and this first quarter I think we have gone to at least five "turning 7" parties. In the Philippines, we have a tradition of having the grandest party we can put together when our kids turn one and seven years old. Some kind of milestone marker years.

When you're a parent, you sort of have gifts you'd be glad to be given to your kids than other items. Personally, I pray my kids receive less toys because they have so many already that any additional ones are turning to clutter.

Below is the list of items I buy for my children's friends aside from toys.

BOOKS. I love books so this is my first choice for birthday gifts. I think you can't get enough of them. Educational, cheap (most of them), classic, safe.

SLEEPWEAR AND UNDIES. I don't know why we don't buy this as birthday gifts. We can never have enough of these, right? We use them everyday so we need as many as we can get.

ART MATERIALS. These are kids' most consumable items (sometimes they really 'consume' them). My kids' crayons and papers need to be replenished every two or three months since they practically use them everyday.

KIDS' TOOTHBRUSHES AND TOOTHPASTE. There are so many cute kiddie toothbrushes that are great gift ideas. Just make sure to buy good quality ones made specially for kids. The same goes for toothpaste as well. A note though. I don't buy soaps since parents usually have a preferred brand for their kids.

Gift giving for kids don't have to be impractical or useless. Most of these gifts will be appreciated by the kids and the parents as well.

Coffee, my life's cup of tea

2011-03-04T07:00:00.001+08:00

Coffee has become some sort of "marker" for the events in my life. This is because my coffee consumption, or otherwise, has been dictated by what's happening in my life.

For the millions of people who are addicted to coffee, I am sure they can say that it's their staple. For some, it has become some sort of security blanket, beverage crack, energy drink and status symbol.

My love for coffee started when I was still working in Manila for a resort in beautiful Palawan. My work sometimes entailed me to meet clients or colleagues over coffee. My weekends and gimmicks also involved a lot of coffee.

Every time I am pregnant and I breastfeed, I stop drinking coffee altogether. My caffeine I would get from decaf and the occasional chocolate drink and chocolate cake. I guess my love for coffee is defeated by my clockwork discipline when I am pregnant.

My current work life now is over coffee since I don't have an official office so contracts are sealed and meetings are done in one of my favorite coffee places. My husband and I gulp down some coffee after our dinner date.

Needless to say, coffee has become a constant companion. It truly is one of the greatest joys in life.

March is Women's Month

2011-03-01T07:00:00.000+08:00

Since March's declaration as Women's month in 1981 in the United States, women from all over the world have achieved much more for themselves and for the world.

This is a short and simple article of gratitude. I am lucky to have great women in my life, a mother, aunts and grandmothers who took care of me and I am happy to have been blessed with two little girls who are growing up to be great ladies as well.

I will always be proud to be a woman!

Odors away!

2011-02-28T08:00:00.000+08:00

I have really bad eyesight. I think it's the reason why my other senses are over-sensitive. I have good hearing and my nose is as sharp as a dog's.

I can smell bad smells and the good ones as well especially when I just entered a room or some enclosed space. Sometimes, it's not even enclosed.

So in my house, I would instantly know if something needs to be washed or r

eplaced or "lysol-ed". (I always have a can at home.) I hunt down the source of the smell and make sure it's eliminated. At the same time, I maintain a regular clean-up to make sure the house stays smelling nice and clean.

Here are some tips for keeping your place great smelling all the time.

TRASH. Your trash bins should be emptied everyday and the bins washed, air-dried and disinfected regularly. Bacteria thrives in your trash bins and usually cause bad odors. Make sure also that you do the same to your larger trash bins outside the house.

CURTAINS AND LINEN. Your curtains, table cloths and towels are quiet causes of disagreeable

odors. Dirt, the smell of your cooking, grease, smoke and just about any odor stick to the fabric. Therefore, it is necessary to wash them regularly especially those in the kitchen and dining room areas.

CLEAN EVERYDAY. I admit to cleaning the house everyday (well, not me but my helper). It is most important for me to keep the house wiped down everyday because we have little children at home who would not benefit from a dirty house at all.

SUN AND WIND. Open your windows to let the sun and wind in. Sunlight is a great eliminator of smell as it acts as some sort of disinfectant. It lends a crisp smell to linen and to pillows when allowed to be warmed up under the sun. I am lucky to be living in a tropical country where we can sundry our clothes almost everyday and not have to use the dryer sometimes.

AVOID PERFUMES AND COLOGNES. I may sound ironic with this advice but yes, it is better to avoid wearing perfumes and colognes. I noticed that they create an unusual smell on clothes and leather when mixed with dirt or smoke. It is better to just keep the smell of soap and clean linen on you. This advice would also be applicable to fabric softeners with strong scents and allegedly carcinogenic air fresheners.

When it comes to cleanliness, I still prefer to do it with the least amount of chemicals. Smelling clean does not entail using scents but keeping a clean house.

The TV shows of my childhood

2011-02-23T19:33:00.000+08:00

If you ask me now what I watched while growing up, I would answer these two shows: MacGyver and Hunter. Ok, seems like they're for boys. But what can I do? I only have brothers, my father was a military officer and my mother enjoyed these shows too.

Who didn't look forward to Saturdays knowing they'd be thrilled again with another MacGyver wizardry?

Yes, we watched local shows as well but these shows really were my equivalent of Harry Potter for kids nowadays.

Other than those shows, I also loved A-Team, Chips and Airwolf. It's been ages ago and can barely remember stories but I am sure, I enjoyed them. Local shows I remember were Young Love, Sweet Love and those horror shows whose names I don't remember anymore but they were good. I also watched a lot of Bioman, Shaider, Voltes V, Karate Kat, Thundercatss, Rainbow Brite, Flying House and (drum rolls), Astroboy. Who didn't love Astroboy? I get excited just thinking about 'em shows.

I remember our neighbors and my dad's basketball team trooping to our house during PBA game seasons and having a good time cheering for Ginebra/Anejo whichever their name is for that season. I so miss those times.

To this day I still love watching TV shows, only I download them through torrent. I get the shows that I like even if they're not shown in local or cable channels.

How about you? What shows were from your childhood?

Camille's Scribbles

2011-02-21T09:57:00.003+08:00

My kids are at the age where they can write and color the whole day. My eldest, Camille, loves to draw us and herself and write sweet notes on her drawings.

Every occasion (Valentine, Christmas, etc), she makes a note for us like this one.

They usually use up my scratch papers and scribble away the whole day till they are hungry or need to pee. (Sadly, some scribbles end up on the wall.)

That's why wherever they go, they always bring along their crayons and pencils.

My heart melts when I see their scribbles. Sincere, simple expressions of their hearts. Good thing there are scanners now to immortalize these treasures.

Maxinne's First Recording

2011-02-21T06:00:00.006+08:00

My husband bought this really cheap microphone from CDR King. So to test it, the kids recorded their voices. This is our daughter, Maxinne's first recording ever! I am so proud of her garbled lyrics and all. I think she got the falsetto from me. (smile)

She sang Different Summers from Camp Rock 2. I love this song too.

Here's the recording. Enjoy listening!

The list goes on

2011-02-17T06:00:00.000+08:00

Yes, I have a list for everything from grocery to recipes to books to buy to movies to see.

I'm a woman of lists! Born, bred, raised with lists! And I'm proud of it.

The reason I said "born, bred, raised with lists" is because my mother was the one who opened my eyes to making a list. We had a sari-sari store when I was in grade

school and she made a list for the things we had to buy when refilling the shelves. She would make lists for major events in the family too.

Making lists has been one of my business tools. My line of work requires it being in the events and consultancy business. Lots of things to do and small details at that. That's with matching deadline. Checklists have definitely been helpful. They are both alleviating and increasing the pressure. When you see a long list of things to do/buy/see, you get stressed out! But as you get to tick off an item, it becomes encouraging.

I know people who prefer mental notes. No can do for me. I find extreme satisfaction in seeing checkboxes getting a check mark. I'm visual in that sense. But most of all, I think I just love making lists. It's more of an OC thing, I think.

So for your sanity, try making a list for the tasks you have to do. Trust me, it's a great habit to start.

Baby Things Reinvented

2011-02-15T09:57:00.003+08:00

I have four kids and everytime I get pregnant and troop to the store to shop, I would always be amazed at the new stuff some bright minds have come up for babies.

A few years back, when we had a cosco car seat, I thought we are already up-to-date. Then came, high-end ear thermometers, ultra-chic high chairs and strollers. Boy, baby things are a whole industry on their own.

Some cool things actually also come from ordinary things we didn't think could be made into what they are now. Example are the laser thermometers, milk dispensers with side spouts for each compartment, baby bottles with straws (in case the kid is seating while drinking his or her milk), cool rattles, toddler rain boots and shoes with RFID (so you can track them in case they get lost) and more. The list just goes on and on.

I am one who rarely hops on the bandwagon but I have to admit, these new things really make childcare more convenient. Unfortunately, no one has yet made a tool to put babies to sleep on cue or to make them stop crying when you want to. Hmmm.... When you think about it, any gadget that can do those must be quite odd.

However, good childcare does not rely on gadgets or the most expensive baby things. It is dependent on a loving heart for the baby and the willingness to care for your baby no matter what.

Giving birth: A whole lot of a woman's strength

2011-02-14T08:08:00.000+08:00

I realized that with the so many motherhood articles I have written, I have not actually written about my birthing experiences.

I have given birth to four children and the experience is so different each time despite the same diet, the same routine, the same environment and prenatal care. I am blessed to be able to afford good medical care before and after childbirth so, I guess, I am luckier than so many Filipino women who are located in far-flung areas that medical care is hard to get.

It should be a wonder to us why women still continue getting pregnant despite the pain. Giving birth is painful for most women. But it's what can be called a good pain.

When a woman is in labor, she goes through an emotional and physical rollercoaster. The onset of contractions between moments of nothing, the impending childbirth, the nervous husband (sometimes). Some women holler in pain, some cry, some curse their husbands. For the prim and proper that I am (most of thetime), I breathe in and breathe out as what my favorite pregnancy book, What to Expect when Expecting, says. I prefer not to make a scandal even when the contractions are so painful you think your head's going to break.

The experience is the same for all my kids while I am in labor. The childbirth varied for each one of them. For my eldest, I was under painkillers and pushed for about 10 minutes. My ssecond was in a hurry to come out my doctor didn't have enough time to put me under drugs. He was barely wearing any surgical attire. My third was born with an epidural. Sure was good for me, no pain at all. My fourth was where all the unfelt pain carried over. Felt each and every whatever you want to call it. Yep, my Marcus was the encore all right.

For me, the anticipation is worse than the pain itself. While in labor for my fourth child, I was so nervous and scared I was shaking while the nurses prep me. But it gets easier as soon as the baby is out. As I said, it is good, sweet pain.

I cannot speak for women who become critical at childbirth. It must be very stressful.

So for women to have more than one child is a show of strength. Being pregnant and carrying 50 lbs more for four months or so is tiring by itself.

Giving birth should be a woman's pride. We are even allowed to put in our resumes in the form of "married with four kids".

What do your children watch?

2011-02-13T06:00:00.000+08:00

My family likes basically three things: food, movies and books. Our house has better monitors than sofa sets (smile). Shows our priorities, huh?

My husband and I are very particular about the shows that the kids watch. Our local cinema and television broadcasts are just not okay with us. In our opinion, the shows shown in the local television are not suitable for children. Yes, there are a few magazine shows on the weekends that are great like Kapuso mo, Jessica Soho. But, one, you still have to weed through the shows for someething apt for kids. The primetime, weekday shows are just not okay.

We have not subscribed to cable television since we have fast internet anyway. We just download good tv shows for our kids and a lot of feature films that have not been released in the Philippines. Admittedly, we do download movies especially those that don't get to be shown in our local movie houses.

As parents, we have a responsibility to screen what our kids watch. For me, I allow my kids to watch a show if, one, the language and the actions are suitable for them. No bad words, offensive actions, violence, sex, drugs, smoking, drinking and the like. Second, it should be something they would enjoy too. Don't you miss Flying House and Rainbow Brite? I do. I wish they had those today. By the way, Tom and Jerry, in my opinion, is too violent for kids.

Do we even wonder why some kids learn about bad habits and bad languages so early? It's because we do not protect them from such inappropriate media and environment.

At the same time, encourage your kids to read and to play. I would be just as happy if they picked up a book instead of watching a movie.

Do not replace television or movies with your attention. Parenthood is more than a flat screen and a DVD player.

Love the Lite!

2011-02-10T07:00:00.001+08:00

I am trying to lose weight. Recently, my efforts on cutting down on carb and eating less meat has been successful. I am proud to say that I love vegetables so I don't have a problem on that front. But the carb and the meats were a struggle.

With this endeavor, I am delighted that a lot of light or lite versions of my staple foods and ingredients have come out in the market. Here's a

list of my favorite ones.

COFFEEMATE LIGHT

I'm a coffee lover so just to make me feel less guilt on my second cup, I have used Coffeemate Light ever since I saw it on the grocery shelf. Taste the same, in my opinioin.

DARI CREME LITE OR MAGNOLIA LIGHT

Butter makes everything better! Now, less sinful with these healthier versions.

NESTLE CREAM D'LITE

I try to avoid cream-needing dishes but when I do cook one, I use D'lite instead of the totally delicious regular Nestle Cream. The taste is not the same that's for sure. But it achieves the "cream" taste somewhat.

Aside from the above, I always use muscovado sugar and vegetable oil.

So if you have not tried these products, do now! May still carry some cholesterol or fat but less is better than a lot, isn't it?

Multi-tasking Triple Time

2011-02-08T09:27:00.002+08:00

Stressed. toxic. Harassed. You feel those on extremely hectic days. Busy. Loaded. That's on a regular day.

Modesty aside, mothers are super humans, the responsible ones, that is.

A normal day would mean waking up at 4:30AM, nursing, cooking breakfast and lunch for my daughter and husband, while the coffee is brewing, eating breakfast, bathing baby, putting him to sleep, cooking lunch (it's around 8:00AM) just in case Marcus would not be giving me time to cook lunch and dinner for the rest of the day. The rest of the day would be a cycle of browsing the net, FB, cooking, eating, nursing. No rest? Most days, yes. Don't forget that I have a helper so imagine my life if I didn't have one. (We don't let our helpers cook. We're sort of strict on that one.)

I have four kids, two of which can survive on their own. My baby and my toddler, though, are totally a handful. Having four kids has made me more efficient. I'm all for effort and time-saving measures

For example, I bring down frozen meats from the freezer to the chiller part before I go to sleep so that the meat is thawed already when I wake up. Or I start stewing something before the baby wakes up so that there's something going on in the stove while I cuddle with Marcus.

Honestly, on some days, I would be so tired I would be asleep by 7PM. It's sure is streesful sometimes especially when the baby cries while you're still in the bathroom.

My prize comes from thinking that, at least, I am here for my children and that I cook their meals. That I know what is happening to them or if what they're eating is good and clean. Peace of mind is my greatest reward.

So on days that I feel harassed, I just try to pace myself and try not to get serious about it all. I know it will pass.

My mother was a full-time mother and wife. We were surely taken care of (and monitored, if you know what I mean). I don't think I can be a full-time mom like her. But while I am, I have to remind myself to savor the chance.

The Best Recognition

2011-02-07T08:36:00.008+08:00

This article is going to make me sound bragging. I guess I am bragging. When your children are appreciated for their good behavior by other people, that is, for me, the greatest recognition a parent can have.

Until about two decades ago, mass media has not used EQ or emotional intelligence in advertisements for products for children and milk. So what happened was, while parents strive to raise smart children, there was also the challenge of raising kids with EQ.

I know that intelligence is more genetic than environmental. Of course, encouragement and support for studying hard and all that helps. So more or less, your kids' smartness just needs to be cultivated but maybe not inculcated.

My two eldest children are both in school now. And thankfully, both of them have been receiving merit cards that recognize their good behavior in class. Of course, we, parents, give importance to their academic achievements but we reward them substantially for their good behavior awards. Tehy get merits for being Most Well-Behaved and Most Polite almost the whole year for the four and three years they have been in school.

When your children are given that recognition, makes you want to think you are doing something right.

I am sure that how they are at home is how they are in school. Our house would not seem like it's populated with kids until you see their toys. They sure are great kids.

So while we work hard so we can send our children to the best schools we can afford, let us not forget our foremost responsibility to our children: teaching them good values and being great examples to them.

Breastfeeding Victories

2011-02-03T11:23:00.003+08:00

I am a proud breastfeeding mom.

All my kids were breastfed for at least three months. The duration varied depending on my project after my maternity break. My second child, Maxinne, was breastfed the longest.

If you are pregnant or wish to be pregnant soon, or if you are a dad whose wife is on the way, I strongly recommend breastfeeding your baby or for the dad, encourage your wife to breastfeed.

Breastfeeding helps a woman lose weight faster after giving birth. (For me, that is a big motivation.) With my first child, I think I went back to my pre-pregnancy size in less than two months. Of course, that's with sleep deprivation and some measure of fatigue.

Breastfeeding also ensures that what you feed your child is good for them. Don't need to sterilize, clean bottles, buy formula, which is expensive by the way or stand up to make the baby milk in the wee hours of the morning. (Just plug the baby in, if you know what I mean.)

My breastfeeding experience with my fourth child is totally different though. He just refused to suck! I have to express milk and then feed it to him. I am thankful my milk hasn't waned but it is honestly more tiring than if he just fed directly.

In Manila, some malls have reserved rooms for breastfeeding moms. That is really great! I hope the same is done in other cities.

The decision to breastfeed might not come easy for other mothers. I know of moms who want to breastfeed but they say there's just no milk or not enough milk. Others are just too lazy to breastfeed. Plain and simple.

As what infant formulas say on the can, breastmilk is the best for babies. TOTALLY TRUE!

Here are my few tips to make breastfeeding easier for you.

Buy good nursing bras and blouses. I am not a fan of the cover but that will be helpful for you if you are kind of ashamed to breastfeed in semi-public places.
Make sure to follow proper breastfeeding positions, the way the baby latches and all.
Don't worry about the sores that will come, they will go away.
Wash your nipples with water only. Don't use soap so as not to dry up the skin.
Drink lots of water and milk. Replace the liquid and shield yourself against calcium deficiency.
Express milk if you have to go away for several days.

If it's not enough incentive, my children have not gone through any terrible illness and their resistance to infection is great.

So if you decide to breastfeed, it will be one of the best decisions you will ever make as a mom. Don't think of the inconveniences. The rewards make it all worth it.

Another chance at renewal on Chinese New Year

2011-02-03T06:00:00.000+08:00

We, Filipinos, get excited about new anything. New president, new phone, new clothes, new year. (When you come to think of it, it might not just be Filipinos.) Being a country of struggles, a new anything gets us hopeful. Very hopeful.

On January 1 of every year, we tend to feel this rejuvenating vibe that only New Years bring. We write our resolutions, clean the house, pay our debts and all the "start-with-a-clean-slate" activities we could do.

Then reality bites and the vibe starts to wane. We are back to our old ways, not necessarily bad ways.

Hmmm.... feels like the rest of the year already huh?

Mmmm... Not so fast. Because Chinese New Year comes and we realize, we got another chance!

A lot of Filipinos celebrate Chinese New Year in the hope of bringing more luck or turning their luck around. Feng Shui is experimented upon with a solemn prayer that it works for them. yes, a lot of us have Chinese roots or have friends who are Chinese. But I don't think that is the reason most celebrate Chinese New Year. People celebrate in the hope that it will be a better year or a great year for the more ambitious ones. That money, health and relationships will turn out well. That wishes be granted. That bad occurrences be shunned away.

I don't think that's bad at all. In fact, I think it's healthy and it's good. I personally practice some Feng Shui in my house. I think that it is better for people to be hopeful than to have given up on wishing for a better life.

However, it must be known that Feng Shui alone does not make life turn around. Even the experts say. Good luck comes with hardwork and prayer. Two things that need to be renewed everyday and not just on New Year's day.

When will my life begin?

2011-02-02T20:17:00.003+08:00

My title might give you an idea that I am looking for some other kind of life. Well, not exactly.

For three months now, my life has been a routine consisting mainly of cooking and taking care of our newborn Marcus. To be honest, I miss the hectic schedule I had just before I gave birth. I like to stay at home and cook and dilly-dally on the Net but for a woman who has had a taste of the fast lane, I just have to have some serving of work every now and then.

A lot of women would be glad to exchange places with me. For that reason, I am really thankful that I don't need to have their prayer. I guess I just miss working and meetings over coffee. I miss cerebral activities.

So I guess while the babysitter is yet undiscovered, I have to make the most of my current situation. Don't get me wrong, I'm not bored nor unhappy. Entertainment is available in my house with or without the internet. Books, CDs, movies, cooking and more books are a few steps away. Unhappy? No, not really.

So when will my life begin is really a question meant for my career life or my work life. At the same time, just to be more demanding, I don't mean work all the time all weeklong. Just something that will take a few days of my week so that I still get to stay at home and see to the kids and to the cooking. It's the life I hope will begin soon.

And by the way, the title is from a song from a movie I saw recently.

Is it just 5 weeks to go?

2010-09-19T21:31:00.003+08:00

It's been awhile since I last wrote on this blog due to a lot of reasons. Got busy with work mainly, lots of work at that. There was a time when I had three projects going on! It was crazy for a pregnant woman but, boy oh boy!, I survived it. Pretty proud of myself.

As my title says, I can't believe I'm due in about 5 weeks! That's pretty near and yet so far for a pregnant woman. You see, there's a boredom of sorts at this stage. At this point in a woman's gestation, it's sort of taken so long already that you just want to get it done and over with.

Filipinos measure by month but I wrote the weeks on my planner so I count by weeks. My 40th week is at the last week of October. My ultrasound says I'm due on Nov. 4. I have a feeling the baby's gonna be coming once the 20s of October get on.

I am done with buying consumable baby stuff like cotton, nappy and the like since those are what I basically need. All my kids baby clothes and crib are still here so we just need to have them washed and pressed next month.

At 35 weeks, I prefer sitting down a lot now and have difficulty sleeping a lot as well. Cramps are lesser this time. Baby is kicking and punching (I don't know which applies) a lot that I think he's just as keen on coming already as I am.

Does the baby have a name already? Yes, he does! But though I have divulged it on my facebook, I will be keeping it secret here for now. Surely will start with letter M.

Diet Support Group Needed!

2010-08-03T12:27:00.003+08:00

Just last month, my mom got hospitalized due to high blood pressure and high blood sugar. Her discharge instructions included eating a low-fat and low-sodium diet. No pork, no beef, no canned goods.

Coming home, I honestly had a difficult time adjusting our diet. One, we have kids at home whose diet cannot be low-fat and low-sodium altogether. Also, my husband is a meatlover. He can eat humba, adobo and barbecue everyday.

So, we had to change our diet to mainly fish and vegetables. Steamed, boiled and grilled dishes, soups that we don't saute and the like. It was okay with me but I can see that everybody else, including our patient, are struggling/adjusting. On some days I have to cook two dishes: one for my mom and one for us or the kids.

I will say that I am happy with the diet. (Really!) Specially since I am pregnant and this diet really suits me well. We eat mostly fish and vegetables now with once a week dinner or lunch of pork or something not-very-healthy. We have also lessened our canned goods consumption and has since used canola oil.

What I realized is that this is how our eating habits should be. It feels lighter and definitely better for our health. However, due to the tastes that we crave for, it is difficult to maintain. If you or somebody in your family needs to be in this diet, either due to illness or just to have a sounder diet, it is important that everybody joins in. Why? Because if that person sees cakes and adobo in your fridge, he or she will be tempted to retract to that bad diet and will eventually be unsuccessful in keeping up the healthy diet.

Right now, we have sorta gave in (again) to one or two sinful foods like corned beef and fried everything. However, I am happy that we are still eating mostly fish, chicken breast and lots of vegetables.

I do pray that we can keep it up. So goodluck to us!

Permission to eat

2010-07-27T12:43:00.002+08:00

A pregnant woman is not allowed to eat all she wants just because she's pregnant or eating for two or three or whatever number of babies.

It sure is hard to control your appetite when you are pregnant. Surprisingly for me, I get satisfied easily during my 1st trimester till mid-2nd trimester. Now, that I'm towards the 3rd trimester, I have a bigger appetite and shorter satiation periods. I have to be eating something in 3 or 4 hours, which I think is just okay for a pregnant woman.

Remember, being pregnant does not give you license to eat all you want.

In fact, eating nutritious and fiber-rich foods should be a pregnant woman's rule of thumb now more than ever. This is because a pregnant woman is more susceptible to water retention, digestion problems, blood pressure and blood sugar problems.

When I am pregnant, I find that I more disciplined in my diet because I don't want to gain so much weight, avoid high blood pressure or gestational diabetes or even be constipated.

When you're pregnant, load up on fruits and vegetables, water and fiber. Snack on fresh fruits, whole grain bread, oatmeal and not on those sweet fares that are, well, sinfully good. Avoid caffeinated drinks and foods and just opt for water. When I eat out, it is extra-hard for me not to order coffee or iced tea as I am a coffee and iced tea drinker. I order juices instead or just water. Carbohydrates loading is a thing most pregnant women find hard to resist because of the need to feel satiated. But if you load up vegetables, it makes you feel full already without loading up on too much calories.

However, watching what you should not let you enjoy pregnant time. Keep active and be a wise eater!

Confessions of a (non) Shopaholic Mom

2010-07-04T10:13:00.002+08:00

Fashionista? Nah. Crazy over bags or shoes? Only for functional purposes.

I do not take being a shopaholic against other ladies or moms for that matter. It's just that I am not one.

Recently, I was talking to a restaurateur/foodie and we shared the same expense addiction: food. Not so much on clothes or other fashion items. And that's who I am: I buy clothes, shoes and bags because it means there is a functional need for one of 'em. However, I do spend a lot on food and dining and books. And office supplies. (I have a little National Bookstore in my home office.) I like to be ready for my printing and office needs. So I'm well-stocked up on different kinds of paper, pen, glue, ribbons and the like.

That I am an Ilocana is one thing. But I think it's also because I did not really grow up with a lot of material comfort. All my things until my college days were all basic and very functional. I had one or two pairs of jeans for school. I was not "in" when the striped t-shirts and Guess jeans became the fashion. Sure, you know what's in fashion. But it's not me. I like classical designs. Those designs that will be okay to wear or use at any time. At the same time, I am not an "ukay-ukay" maniac. Nope. Definitely not for me.

Even now that I get to buy what I need (not all that I want), I still stick to buying functional rather than because I simply like the item. I remember on a tourism sales mission to Bangkok, my fellow sales managers have already maxed out their baggage weight allowance and had to buy another luggage for their purchases. Mine were still well within the allowed weight.

I believe in being practical even if you have extra money to buy things you still like. I believe in using all your clothes and bags and shoes on a regular basis, rotating if you may. It keeps the wear and tear less on each item. I believe in teaching my kids that it does not matter that you are not in fashion. What matters is keeping your finances and your integrity intact.

What's your discipline policy at home?

2010-06-28T11:17:00.000+08:00

Spanking or scolding?

I use both! Proud to say I use both but with lots of love and explanation. My kids are really young still to comprehend some of the explanation, I think. However, given the way they respond to the whole thing, maybe they understand.

How I'm doing it now is basically the same as how I was brought up. Discipline with lots of love and support. We were not beaten up for no reason. (Yes, I used the word beaten up *smile) Looking back, I am thankful we were beaten up because I think it's partly reason for how we grew up. Ehem...

Nowadays, I wish some kids I see were given the ass-beating of their lives. You know, bullies, tantrums, bad language, bad manners and the like. I guess that with all the increasingly busier parents, child protection and human rights blah-blah in our society now, disciplining children just might have taken a different direction.

In our house, the kdis are reprimanded or spanked when necessary. In cases when verbal reprimand will do, they are given that. My husband and I also try not to overrule each other when one of us is reprimanding the kids. When a parent does that to another person, it makes the process confusing and the parent reprimanded not credible to the child. We give punishments fairly. When my preschool girls were smaller, they were already spanked. Yes, that early. Now, we are reaping the rewards. They are very disciplined and well-behaved except for the usual kakulitan. At the same time, they are growing up to be happy children. What's more, the school they go to recognize them for their kindness and good manners. (They get merit cards for these.)

Does your kid overdo himself or herself? Does his behavior now make you think about spanking but don't? If you answer yes, spanking might be an option for you. Depending on how far the lack of discipline has become, of course.

However, spanking cannot be successful without love and affection. When it's all spanking, you'll be infusing fear and hatred in their young minds. So do it with a lot of discretion.

Bulding your kids' immune system

2010-06-25T08:17:00.000+08:00

In General Santos City, Philippines, where I live, there is never really an official rainy season unlike in the Luzon island. Sure, we have our share of rain but, most of the time, it's sweltering heat, around 34 degrees Celcius, that accompany us. The weather changes could really be erratic on even a single day.

My first concern when this happens is how to keep the kids cool in hot weather and keeping them warm when it does get cold and rainy. In times like these, it's the time the kids' immune system gets messed up and they get colds and cough easily. The school year starts around this time as well so imagine the multiple sources of virus and bacteria.

As a proactive measure, I give them vitamins everyday. Their supplement is Vitamin C with Zinc meant to boost their immune system. I also make sure that they get to eat fruits, vegetables and drink fluids. They are not yet a big fan of vegetables but they do get to eat those that they like a lot like squash and eggplants. Eating fruits is no problem. They can have them for breakfast, lunch or dinner and snacks too!

I also teach them sound hygiene practices like using a hanky when they sneeze, washing their hands often specially after using the toilet and not sharing personal stuff they use with others. We also keep the house clean and tidy at all times and disinfect once a week. It sure is hard to monitor these in school so the rest of the time that we can monitor them, we encourage them to go on with these practices. I am glad that the school also promotes good hygiene. Recently, we have also avoided public play areas in malls since we noticed that every time they go play in these places, they catch a virus soon enough.

We also do get them exposed to a little dirt and build their defenses by letting them play outside every afternoon. We let them touch plants which we are sure to be not poisonous and to play in the playground.

I am thankful that my kids have been really in great health. They are active, happy and eager to be playing and reading all the time. When a child gets sick, a mom worries specially when the child is inconvenienced a lot. So it's every mother's prayer that his or her child be in good health, that's for sure.

Dealing with Second Trimester Discomforts

2010-06-12T17:46:00.004+08:00

I am in my 20th week of pregnancy and I just realized now, I am actually halfway through! Wow, that was fast. I did not almost noticed the time that passed already.

So now I'm well into the second trimester and this semester usually gets a pregnant woman into a few discomforts. This being my fourth child, I sort of anticipated them and avoided some of them. However, some are unavoidable for me I noticed that I have to learn to deal with them and somehow, lessen the inconvenience.

TOOTHACHES. I have never had toothaches anytime in my life except when I get pregnant. This is because the baby's calcium requirement suck your calcium thus putting peril to your teeth. During my first pregnancy, it was so bad I had to use toothache drops and drink painkillers. Avoid extreme toothache or even tooth loss by increasing calcium in your diet. If you are yet to be pregnant, make sure that you are on calcium supplements and have regular dental check-ups. Be wary though that calcium supplements usually cause constipation which brings me to the next discomfort.

CONSTIPATION. First, let me say that it really happens often to pregnant women. At some point in your pregnancy, some bodily functions refuse to cooperate and refuse to give you the usual convenience of doing it everyday. How to avoid it? Lots of fiber, avoid meats and drink lots of water and juices. Moving a lot, exercise help a lot too.

WADDLING AND PAIN BELOW BELLY. Okay, you may say, really now, waddling? Yes, the second trimester is usually the time when some pregnant women seem to waddle. Yeah, like a duck. There's also usually light pain in the pubic bone area that could be a discomfort. Not really painful but discomfort. The pain is caused by the hormone relaxin that causes the pelvis, or the pubic bone area, to loosen. Books told me that this is good since it makes childbirth easier. The pain should not require you to drink any medicine. Just avoid sitting or standing too long or being in the same position for some time.

SLEEPING DIFFICULTIES. For me, I constantly wake up at night to urinate or for no reason at all. What I usually do, lessen my liquid intake before dinner. I also try to sleep and wake up at a particular time every time to get my body clock in tune. To some extent, it's like your body is training you for the wee morning diaper changing and feeding when the baby comes. Try to get a second or third pillow to hug which should help you sleep better.

I am sure that before I know it, it's my due date already. Hope my article helps you pregnant women out there.

Two things I have to do myself

2010-06-12T17:06:00.003+08:00

I have been blessed to be able to hire a helper or two for housework and to take care of my three children when I have to go out.

My helpers have been trained in almost all tasks in the house except for some: organizing our clothes and cooking our meals. (Yes, I cook all our meals or my husband does even if we have two helpers in the house.)

Organizing our clothes mean choosing clothes for ironing, putting back the clothes to our cabinets (there's a certain way I want it done) and keeping the clothes piled neat and in order. Our cabinet, in particular, is off-limits to our helper but they of course can go through the kids' cabinets. It's funny because I remember my mother complaining before that my cabinet is all messed up and she has to constantly rearrange my clothes. Now, it's my turn. Sure now know how my mom feels.

The cooking part is for a whole lot of reasons! One, taste, two, hygiene, three, sometimes, you just want to cook food that you like. I have to tell you though that definitely I have days I don't want to cook. Lazy, not in the mood, wants to dine out, etc. I am lucky when my mom is in town because she cooks for us all the time and she cooks really great food too.

So okay, taste. As I said my mother is a great cook so I got used to eating good-tasting food for even the simplest of dishes. Since I got used to that, I had to have good-tasting food all the time. This helped me a lot in my current profession. Second, hygiene. If I cook the food, I am sure I will cook it the way it's supposed to be cooked. I just give my helper instructions on handling it later, storing and reheating.

I do cook nutritious meals for them, one more important reason why I want to cook myself. I have a penchant for menu planning and buying fruits and vegetables because I want the kids to get used to eating nutritous and good food. At this point, my girls are already appreciative of food that I cook for them and don't get all ignorant when we dine out.

So busy as a bee as I can be, there's some things that a mother like me have got to do. All in a mother's day's work.

School's here! My own adjustments this year

2010-06-08T18:53:00.002+08:00

I have to say that this year would be one significant year for me as a mom with a preschool and now, a grade school kid.

My eldest is now in first grade! Wow, how time really flies fast!

The reason why it's a year of adjustment for me is because she'll be staying longer in school. This means that we now have two pick-up times for the kids and that she would have to eat lunch in school.

The first reason is an expense addition because this means that we would be needing two roundtrips now that they have different time schedules. It might be an adjustment initially but I'm sure we'll adapt to it and get used to it. This means also that, logistically, I have to adjust arrangements with my work schedule to make sure that there is somebody left at home to see to our youngest.

I am a little bit worried, for now, that Camille will be eating lunch in school now. She eats quite slowly and is a little bit clumsy yet. I am sure she'll be fine. It's just a mother's worrying hat on when new things come their kids' way. I might have to be there for a day or two and see if she gets along well on her own and to teach her. I do not have plans of being there everyday because I don't think that will be to her benefit in teaching her independence. My wish at this time is that she finds a friend with whom she will enjoy having lunch with. I know kids do things better with company they like. I also hope she eats well even without our supervision.

I am also wary that, since she's in grade school now, her lessons will be different and things will be different from when she was in preschool.

I have long prepared the kids' supplies so I am oh-so-ready for school already. I hope you are done with your preparations too.

The Fourth Time Around

2010-05-30T11:14:00.003+08:00

As you may have learned from my last blog entry, 2010, 7, 4, I am on the way with our fourth child.

After three kids, all still young and dependent on us, expecting one more within the year is not as eventful as my previous pregnancies. You sort of go through the motions and know really well what's coming up next. Sometimes, I'd like to think that I am an expert already on pregnancy and baby care as all my experiences are less than a decade old. Still fresh if you think about it.

I will be honest that at this time, I am already anticipating both the good and the bad. The good being allowed to be fat and eat a little more than what I should have, being assisted in all possible ways, being spoiled (sometimes). The bad being the labor, postpartum pains, sleep deprivation and the intricacies of protecting a newborn baby.

I am already on my second trimester, five months in a few days. Surprisingly, I am a lot lighter than my previous pregnancies at this stage. I gained one pound only within a month which is not normal for me. I usually gain at least four pounds. I am less ravenous than before, even before I got pregnant. My appetite gets satiated easily. What is most surprising is my lack of craving for high-calorie and sinful treats a pregnant woman usually likes. I don't get tempted by cakes, ice cream, junk food or salty treats. I am, in fact, eating healthier and snacking wisely, i.e., no biscuits or cookies, just bread or raisins or fruits. Totally surprising!

My doctor said that my baby's size is one week less than what it's supposed to be but she said it's definitely okay. I am glad that that's okay.

So for now, it's some four months away before I post pictures of our newborn. Hoping and praying all will be well like before.

2010, 7, 4

2010-05-13T17:06:00.002+08:00

This year, 2010, is proving to be a roller cosater of a year for me. Just recently, my husband and I celebrated our seventh year of married life together. I am happy that we have reached seven! My husband has been a great husband and a great dad so I am very thankful.

This year also, we are going to have another addition to the family! I am on the way with our fourth child! I have to say that this pregnancy came as a total surpirse. Now, I am suddenly faced with the need to rearrange schedules and a whole lot of things to give way to my childbirth about five months from now. I am not sure whether I want a girl or a boy but my husband wants a boy so that our Cedric would have a buddy.

One other thing I was ecstatic about was our vacation to one of my hometowns. Earlier in April, the whole family went on a two-week vacation to my mom's side's home. We got to visit the city and other relatives. What I am so happy about with this trip is the chance for my cousins, aunts and grandfather to spend time with my children. I can see they adore the kids and actually wish that we leave them there! Until now, the kids would remember them from time to time.

I am taking things slower right now because I realized that getting pregnant after 30 years old gets more difficult for me. I get tired easily and actually experienced afternoon sickness, something I did not go through with my other kids. Now on my second trimester, the sickness attacks are gone. I also feel my appetite getting bigger (I ate very minimally in my first trimester.) but I do try to eat healthy which was actually easier than thinking smaller portions.

I'll see you in my next post.

At Seven

2010-05-10T03:44:00.004+08:00

A lot of women wish for somebody who will sweep them off their feet, love them, take care of them and support them. Well, I have found mine more than seven years ago.

This year, Milper and I are celebrating our seven years of marriage. Previous to that, we dated for about two years. May 10 is actually our only anniversary- you know, couples celebrate even monthsaries and all from the time they start being a couple.

After three kids (and another one on the way), I am honestly happy about our married life. Milper is a great husband and dad as well. I am not sure about his housekeeping skills but that's another topic, of course!

Milper and I are somewhat both intellectual, modesty aside. We have been blessed with parents who sent us to the best schools they almost cannot afford. On some days, he would crack a joke which I am sure not a lot of people will 'get' easily but I do. I would tell him, "Buti na lang ako napangasawa mo. kundi baka di nagets ang joke mo. " (It's good you got married to me. Otherwise, your joke would not have been understood.) He would say likewise. *smile* He is my aunts' answer to their prayers for me: that I get to marry someone as smart or smarter than me.

I can say a lot of good things about him. His only fault I can remember is when he forgets to call or text when he will not be having dinner at home or he'll not be able to pick me up. I'd be waiting and later find out, he can't make it.

What makes our marriage smooth sailing would be our love for talking to each other everyday and not making a big deal out of everything. Well, sometimes, I do. We don't treat this marriage like its some serious project but we do give our share in making it work. Respect, understanding, empathy and affection do get your marriage a long way. We have seen couples talk to and treat each other like s**t. We don't. Being married does not give you license to mistreat each other.

If you will ask if he has a brother or a cousin, sorry but there's no one else like him.

Spending time with each of your children

2010-03-05T10:02:00.000+08:00

Have you ever gone on a leisure or shopping trip alone with one of your children? Not all of them or some of them but with just one of them.

As you may already know, I have three little kids, two older girls and the youngest is a baby boy. More often than not, when we go out, I bring the two girls with me and leave my baby boy at home or vice versa. When on weekend getaways, it's usually all of them. We do get to spend quality and quantity time with them in all these manners either with my husband or just me.

At the same time, I try to spend them with one of them only. When I do that, I can feel my child basking in the attention of being alone with me. They feel very special being taken on this trip with me. Not that they don't like being with their siblings but they love the time that you are all that matters to me at that moment.

It sure is not easy to arrange these one-on-one dates because, as kids, they want to tag along to every trip to everywhere. What I do is do it during irregular class days when one of them gets of from school earlier than usual.

When you spend time alone with one of your children, you get to know them better. They show their personality more and most importantly, you make them really happy.

Surviving the brownouts

2010-03-03T09:45:00.002+08:00

For about a month now, the Philippines has been experiencing frequent brownouts between 1 to 4 hours daily as the power plant crisis worsens. In the beginning, it was tolerable but as the brownouts grew longer, the inconvenience started to be felt.

For most houses, during brownouts we can only rely on candles, emergency lights and battery-powered equipment to tide us through the power outage. Unless, of course, you can afford to have a generator.

The brownouts happen daily now at 2 to 3 times in a day so after a month of them, my household has somewhat gotten used to them and have learned to adjust to them. It's funny how we can be so begging for something we neglect when around. Applies to most things in life I guess.

It was good we have long purchased a UPS for our computer, LED emergency light and a rechargeable fan and light-in-1. I specially love the LED light because it is brighter and lasts longer before needing recharging. Our UPS has been really helpful in keeping the electric fan on on very hot days. Usually lasts 30 minutes of fan time.

We have also stocked up on candles, matches and water in cases when the water tank runs out. There were other things that we had to do now on a daily basis that helps in eleminating inconveniences during brownouts. FIrst, we have learned to cook rice and other dishes for two meals if possible. You see, we use a rice cooker. Although of course, we still have our reliable rice pot to use in the stove. Second, to try to do all cleaning and washing before the brownouts. Third, cook early for dinner so that we are already having dinner by sunset to maximize natural light.

The brownouts are aggravated by the hot temperature and when water goes too. Personally, I am okay with brownouts but waterouts, no!

So if you are experiencing the same problem, hope you could keep your cool.

My one heartache

2010-02-18T06:00:00.000+08:00

Nope. This is not another heartbroken, love story.

I live in General Santos City and my family and friends are hundreds of miles away. Still in the same country but far nonetheless. I belong to a family that is big on get-togethers and birthdays. We remember each others' special dates. We try to make it when we invited to special occasions.

Now, that my husband, my children and I live here, I get frustrated not being able to attend celebrations in our family and even, meet-ups with friends from work and school.

When my children have important school activities or it's their birthday or if I have milestones in my career, they are still celbrated in the best way we can but it is saddening to think that we cannot share it with our relatives and friends. They are growing up not being familiar with the people around whom my husband were raised.

Don't get me wrong. I honestly love living where we are now because we can live comfortably and it's less-stressed out here in the province. We do get to enjoy a lot of luxuries. It is the "being-away-from-them" that really hits hard. We do get to go home but it's not as often as we'd wish it to be.

Hopefully, this summer I can take the children to their grandparents and let my aunts enjoy their rowdy company.

They say home is where the heart is. Well, mine is in two places.

Simply big bags to mommy bags: Changes that happen to a mom

2010-02-16T09:28:00.005+08:00

Admittedly, we go through changes in our life every now and then depending on the situations we go through. I would have to say that motherhood, and married life at that, brought about certain adjustments, some trivial and some major, in my life. However, I don't want this to be a "heavy" article so I am going to let you in on the petty and some funny changes that happened to me.

I have always liked big bags even during the time when they were not a fashion trend yet. I use big bags because I want to bring along things that I MIGHT need. The contents of my bag include all the school supplies that are not bigger than my bag and "retouch" and cleaning up necessities ranging from the face powder to alcohol.

When I had kids, for a while, my bags were set aside to give way to the diaper bag. Luckily, when I became a mom, the diaper bags were not as hideous and were actually designed already to be in-fashion. My small alcohol bottle gave way to a bigger one and the planner had to give way to the diapers and changing mat. Now that the kids do not require as much of the things that they needed when they were teeny-weeny babies, I still include AT ALL TIMES wet wipes, hand sanitizers and alcohol, snacks and change of clothes. With Cedric now at almost 18 months, he requires milk enough until we get back home, change of clothes and still his changing mat.

One thing that I always take note of is whether our destination has a clean toilet. The kids and I need to pee in clean restrooms. Otherwise, we have to try to disinfect the toilet with alcohol.

At their age, my two girls are now great companions to malling, grocery shopping or even to service shops like the seamstress, doctor, salon and the like.

My puchase of clothes have been affected as well. I have stuck to flat shoes, stud earrings and easy-to-manage hair. I have maintained fragrance-free cosmetics as much as I can so as to not irritate their sensitive skins. Great thing is that I love using those anyway so it's not a big effort to use them at all.

Unfortunately, my diet has been affected as well. When you have little kids at home, they like ice creams and those sweet biscuits and drinks so most of the time, you end up sharing the meal with them. Oh well... it's not their fault but it's my lack of discipline in eating healthy.

As they say, change is good. For me, especiallly good and fulfilling when I see my children happy and healthy.

I walked down the aisle in my white flats

2010-02-12T16:42:00.007+08:00

While most brides choose strappy, glittered, shimmering, high-heeled shoes of white or silver, mine are white, baby doll style flats which I remember buying from Mendrez at Glorietta.

Why? I am definitely a simple lady and anti-what's-in-fashion sometimes. I chose to wear those shoes for my wedding because my husband is about two inches shorter than me. So if I wear heels, I would be much taller!

On the day of our wedding, my photographers and gown designer friend, Matto Garcia, were shocked when they saw my white shoes. Not even shiny or beaded or embroidered. Plain white, baby doll shoes which looked simpler than nurse loafers. Matto, in his shrill voice, said, "Ano to? Binyag?" He is always upset at my lack of fashion sense. He had to coerce me into putting beads on my wedding gown.

Anyway, here is a photo of those precious shoes.

I honestly could have opted to wear something pretty like flat strappy sandals or super low heels but I chose to wear those shoes because I simply liked them. Functional and comfortable, I did not complain of "feet killing me" which often happens on long wedding receptions.

So where are the shoes now? I have them in storage in their original box. I could not wear them anymore though because, apparently, your feet get a little bit longer when you give birth. I do try to wear them on short trips when they would not be too uncomfortable. They still look pristine to me after six years. They are definitely one of the many remarkable symbols of my beautiful wedding day and, now, an emblem of a beautiful married life.

First Time at the Cinema!

2010-02-12T14:05:00.004+08:00

Due to the inavailability of a good cinema until last year when a new mall opened, my two kids have never watched a movie on the big screen. Finally, early this year, they got the chance to watch in the cinema!

And obviously, the movie is Alvin and the Chipmunks Squeakquel. We love these chipmunks! My kids adore them but they have been converted to Chippets after the movie. They had the whole nine yards - popcorn, iced tea (instead of soda), extra cold airconditioning. My husband and I were thought about the first time we went to the movies, separately, when we were younger, that is. We were much older so my kids are lucky.

Now they are looking forward to the next date at the movies.

Teaching responsibility to little kids

2010-02-11T06:00:00.000+08:00

Nope, not too early to teach them responsibility.

My two elder children, aged 6 adn 4 respectively, are already learning about duties. After breakfast, one of them has to get their vitamins and Yakult and bring them to the table. When they eat biscuits or anything with a wrapper, they have to put the wrapper into the trash. Even my youngest does this now. When they take off their clothes, they have to put them in their hamper. When they come from school, they put their bags and shoes in their proper place. After playing, they put away their toys and books.

I have seen kids and even adults who throw litter on the floor or out the car window. When I see that, I literally want to shove their trash down their mouth. For me, people who are not able to dispose of their trash properly have major discipline and responsibility issues in life.

I have to emphasize that the acts towards teaching life skills to children should turn out to be enjoyable and rewarding for the children. They have to view it as a good thing for them.

"What's for dinner?"

2010-02-08T06:00:00.000+08:00

When you cook everyday, there'd be days you think you've run out of dishes to cook. You'd think you've cooked them all! Or you have cooked a certain dish so many times.

I have that same dilemma. I have so many cookbooks and there are millions of recipes online. Sometimes, you just want to open a can or buy barbecue. I do succumb to either one when I'm really lazy.

As I've said in a previous post on saving time, I like making lists. One kind of list I like making is my grocery list. I have what I call a running grocery list. I complete this list over a week before I am to buy groceries. But before I do my grocery list or while making it, I make a menu. (Yes, like how they do it in restaurants, you know, the menu cycle.) I list down the dishes I plan to cook for a week usually. Then I list the ingredients I need for these dishes. This menu making activity has benefitted me substantially. One, I don't have ingredients in my pantry or refrigerator that might not be used anytime soon. Two, it saves you money because you don't need to buy "everything". You buy just what you need for the next two weeks. Of course, I keep a few ingredients for "just-in-case" situations. Understandably though you will have ingredients that you will not consume all at once like spices and sauces. This has been great to avoid spoilage especially with fruits and vegetables.

So the next time you go to the grocery, try making a menu even if you're already in the supermarket. But of course, better to write it down!

The Road to 28 inch waistline

2010-02-04T06:00:00.000+08:00

I have a 33 inch waistline now after three pregnancies and almost seven years of marriage. I think I was at 28 inches before I got married so I want that size back.

However, recently, I was looking at my old photographs and I honestly don't want to be that thin again. I look malnourished! My waistline must have been around 25 inches. Yes, slim but not apt for me right now.

So it's somewhat a "meet-halfway" goal to aim for 28 inches again. Why 28? Because some of my skirts and pants which I have not used since I became pregnant are size 28.

So in order to get my 28 waistline back, I am exercising and reducing computer time and carbohydrates. So far, I have not succumbed to diet pills, slimming pills or appetite depressants. I do drink juices with L-Carnithine and include whole grain snacks and cereals to my grocery list. I also get great tips from one of my subscriptions from www.realage.com. Let me clarify, though, I do not have anything against diet pills. If exercise and a sensible diet don't work, I just might resort to those.

I have been on this for almost a month yet. I do not yet show any considerable weightloss but I have gained a lot already. I feel lighter, move more easily and have more energy. So that's not bad for a start, in my opinion.

It might be a long travel to 28. I do hope and pray I can keep up the regimen. Oatmeal, anyone?

What restaurants should do to be small chldren-friendly

2010-02-01T06:00:00.000+08:00

Ever since my two girls were easier to bring to restaurants, I have put together a list of restaurants to bring them to (aside from fastfood chains) when we go out. My girls are 4 and 6 so they are past the "highchair" size and the "walking around the restaurant" phase.

You will be surprised to know that coffeeshops (yes, drinks with caffeine which shouldn't be consumed by children yet) actually top the list! No, they don't drink coffee yet but most of the coffeeshops I frequent have cakes, pasta and sandwiches which they love heaps.
The picture is in Coffee Club 101 recently at the Robinsons Place Gensan. The coffeeshop luckily has juices and water, sandwiches and cakes. The seats are also kid-friendly! Low tables and chairs are what makes these coffeeshops great for with-children gimmicks.

Aside from coffeeshops, I like restaurants like our local Bigby's that has kiddie size meals and low-enough tables that enable my kids to seat properly and see their food while eating. They also provide activity placemats for children while waiting for our food to be served. What's more, they set the place for the child in your table. Some restaurants don't, assuming the kid does not eat. Duh.

So in summary, if restaurants want to be kid-friendly, in my opinion, they should:
1) Have a kiddie menu that adults can eat too, in case, the kid doesn't feel like eating the whole thing (well, actually, we like 'em kiddie meals a lot!) or at least have food that kids can eat easily on their own
2) Provide activity while eating (I don't like play areas in restaurants really because I'm training them not to go around when about to eat.)
3) Have low or high-enough height of tables and chairs
4) Have a wash area
5) Have, if possible, non-skid table tops and floors

Enjoy dining out with your children!
5)

Motherhood the Movie

2010-01-28T22:00:00.000+08:00

I came across this movie over the download sites (sorry I sort of live in a city where these kinds of moveis don't get shown in the local cinemas). I awtched it with my husband and we were both laughing at a few scenes.

The move "Motherhood" is about a full-time mom (Uma Thurman) who desires to return to her love, which is writing, but have to be discouraged by the daily rigors of childrearing and housekeeping.

Honestly, I cannot say that I feel for her. Well, it's because I don't do all the housework alone, according to my husband. And I don't live in a 3rd or 4th floor apartment (No, we have a simple house.) which I think causes some of her stress.

Anyway, enjoy the movie!

It is possible!

2010-01-26T15:20:00.000+08:00

Before I got married, I was the kind of person who loved to be at work or working. I loved to get busy and be involved. Sometimes, I think I take so much pleasure in being harassed and given more work!

When my first born, Camille, was born, I had to change my work life. At that moment, I decided that my family was going to be my priority. It was the statement that has guided me for more than 6 years now. The decision has always been easy because I have chosen my priority ahead.

At the same time, there is a part of me that wants to use my education and my capabilities not just for the kids' homeworks and homemaking. In the previous years, when I got a big project there was always a helper or my mother who took over my household and my kids while I work away. I get engrossed with work when I know that there is a trustworthy somebody who makes sure the house is clean and in order and the kids are fed good food. But in my current situation, I cannot afford to be working and not taking care of my kids at all.

So now I have decided to be REALLY be there for my children and my husband. I choose projects that will not take away my time for the kids and my husband but still give me that sense of fulfillment every woman wants. Not that I was not there for them but sometimes, I was not. This is one of my dreams: to be an attentive and caring mother like my own mommy while being able to do what I like to do among them, work, see my friends and use my brain!

Yes, it is possible!

Saving Time (and money) for the Busy Mom

2010-01-24T22:00:00.000+08:00

Whether you're working or a full-time mom, especially if you have kids, time is just zipping by on you. Everything is just urgent! Add to that the routine you have to keep up everyday.

Before I dish out these time (and money)-saving tips for you, let me make some clarifications. At the moment, I have helpers who make things easier for me. I also have a husband who knows to cook and take care of kids as well so he is a big, big help. I am almost obsessive-compulsive about orderliness so if you are not, that takes away a lot of stress for you. *smile*

Okay, here goes quick and easy-to-read tips for you because you might be in a hurry.

1. Make a list. Oh yes! If you have not discovered the art of making lists, start now. I have a list for practically everything: grocery, school supplies lacking, clothes/equipment for repair and the like. Saves you time and effort on the grocery floor, unless you are like me who likes to walk down the aisles like I'm in a park.

List for grocery: When you grocery, make it every pay period and buy fresh vegetables, fruits, fish and meats every week.

2. Be organized. Create the good habit of having a place for everything under a classification: soap and cleanser shelf, basket for hangers, rags, toys, etc.. Don't mix everything up. My kids now know where is the school supplies box, hamper, toy cabinet, book cabinet, container for their toiletries, hairclips, socks. When we need them to get something, they can go get them and they know where to find it.

When you have a house that is in order, it takes up less time to look for something and is less stress for you.

3. PORTION. When you come from the grocery, slice your meats according to your serving portions and put in separate containers so that you don't have to thaw the whole chicken everytime you want to get a portion of it only. Save you time, electricity and water.

4. JUST IN TIME. It's one of the lean manufacturing principles that we should adapt to our homes. Don't buy too much of something that you know will not be consumed until the next grocery trip. Good for your budget.

5. BUY FRESH BUT KEEP QUICK COOKING ITEMS ON HAND. I like to buy noodles, pasta and canned tuna. It's for those times you just can cook for a few minutes.

6. If you can, buy in big sizes. It all actually depends on your consumption. I buy big sizes for milk, oil, shampoo and toothpaste but still keeping in mind to maintain the "Just in Time" principle. Those sachet packagings are not very okay with me because they get messy, cause too much trash and are more expensive.

7. Learn to multi-tasking a healthy, non-crazy way. I don't mean putting a baby to sleep in a hammock while you iron clothes. No please. I love to multi-task and it's one of the things I have come to learn to do so well. For example, when I cook something that needs some simmering or slow-cooking, I set it up first, saute, if needed, then read, sew, blog or do my exercises while it's simmering. Or set the table while cooking. Or toothbrush while taking out my clothes or the kids' clothes. You could also be taking your coffee break or read while the kids are having an afternoon nap. Works well for us.
Lastly, make your kids an area where they will be safe, they can play or read and where you can still watch them while you are doing other things. Works well on any size of house that you have.

Till next blog!

Meet my Children (part 3 of 3): CEDRIC

2010-01-20T23:00:00.000+08:00

CEDRIC

Cedric is a wish that came true despite the fact that I did not want to be pregnant anymore after Maxinne. A friend of mine told me that those unexpected ones are those who will be the apple of your eyes.

I am not sure if it is because he is a boy but, at one year old, I can say that I did not have a super kulit child until Cedric. My two girls were easy to discipline and I never experienced Terrible Twos stage with them. I hope that would be the case with Cedric too. He is a ball of energy now and sometimes, become too noisy.

He eats well especially if it's bananas. But he likes other fruits too, squash, carrots, eggplant, noodles and rice. Good thing he likes to drink lots of water too. He is starting to use his potty and, boy, I have to rewire my brain with that. I was teaching him to pee sitting down. Uh-oh.

Cedric has a really loving way of kissing you, with all the sound and feelings. Now that he does not have a babysitter and I am the one who usually takes care of him, he would cling to me like a suction cup for most things. He is at the point when he is discovering his capabilities, thus, making babysitting him a serious matter. He would climb chairs, the sofa, try to open cabinets, rummage through the trash bin which just freaks us all out.

Despite all his kakulitan, he is truly an angel of a boy. He sure makes his daddy proud to have a boy.

Meet my Children (part 2 of 3): Maxinne

2010-01-18T09:18:00.000+08:00

MAXINNE

My second child is still a girl. Her name is Maxinne. Unlike her ate Camille, whose name is a combination of my name and my husband's, Maxinne was named Maxinne because we just simply liked that name. Looking at her name, it seems it's an apt name for her. She's "Maxed" if you know what I mean. Maxed out eating, talking, asking, luckily all the good things.

Maxinne is full of energy. She can keep talking nonstop, eat with gusto and watch a movie while talking at the same time. The whole time. If you don't tell her to stop, she will blabber on and on until she gets hungry or needs to urinate.

It is difficult to talk about Maxinne without talking about Camille too. They are always mistaken to be twins, they are just two grades away from each other, they have the same teachers and almost wear the same dress size. Their preschool teachers notice the difference between Camille and Maxinne. While Camille is sometimes shy and prim and proper, Maxinne is super active and curious.

She likes to eat too. She's a simpleton when it comes to food and not too adventurous. Her favorite would be egg and rice, liquid seasoning or soy sauce with kalamansi and rice, pansit, corned beef, Jollibee's chickenjoy and iced tea. She eats substantially and drinks her breakfast chocolate milk in one gulp.

Despite her being super active, she could get very girly and kikay too. She likes wearing dresses and anything pink. Both my girls like getting a haircut because they like sitting there and getting their hair done and blowdried.

When she dances, you will see every part of her body dancing. She gives it her all. And I do hope that when she grows up, that she be able to give the same passion she shows now to whaever she chooses to do in life.

Meet my Children (part 1 of 3)

2010-01-12T18:52:00.000+08:00

It is but fitting for my readers to get to know the little kids who are the inspiration for this blog. I got this inspiration from Randy Pausch in his book The Last Lecture where he wrote about the things he loves about his three children.

So I will be writing about my children in the order they were born. You'll notice that all of them have one-word first names. They really don't have any second or third name. We want them to write down their name fast. It would be very convenient for them.

CAMILLE

Camille just turned six. She is the ultimate kikay. She likes pink, she likes dresses, she likes going out, she likes hair clips, she likes pretty sandals. She likes being pretty-fied. During school activities, she is most excited about the makeup.

But when Camille was a baby, she had very little hair and she was mistaken for a baby boy (maybe that was my fault because she was wearing tees and shorts all the time). Now she's a little princess.

She has gotten that aura of an ate or older sister. She's not rowdy at all and shows a lot of finesse in all that she does. She does not throw tantrums. You can leave her with an activity or a book and she will be fine. Unlike other kids, she does not roam around when we go to the mall or some public place unless you allow her to.

She and Maxinne are mistaken to be twins because they look very similar and their height is almost the same.

In her class, I think Camille is the smallest. When she was in Senior Nursery and Kinder 1, her teachers and her bigger classmates would carry her like a baby. When she comes back to school after a day or two's absence, she was welcomed warmly and hugged.

Now that she's six, we are training her for responsibility. We just delegate as many errands in the house that we can give her like getting this and that, wiping the dining table and such.

She is not as makulit as Maxinne, which I am thankful for, to some extent. But at her age, she gives out reactions to certain situations which tells me she just might be growing up to be like me. Of course, that's what most parents would like (their child becoming to be like them). The people who know would know what I am talking about.

One thing that fascinates my husband and me about Camille is her willingness to try out food, any kind of food. She's like a little gourmand or food critic. When she was 4, she was able to eat with chopsticks already. She likes eating out with me because I like to try out restaurants and new dishes as well. When the three of us go otu, myself, Camille and Maxinne, and you ask where should we eat, Maxinne would say "Jo***ee!" and I would suggest another restaurant, Camille would vote with me. So I win!

This early, she loves to read books already and boy, are we glad! She troops to the book section at once when we go to National Book Store.

This month, when she turned six, I had a hard time making the thought sink in. She is six. She is six. It seemed like she was just learning to walk last month.
Being our firstborn, she was somewhat a star being the first grandchild and first niece in both our families. And she still is.

About Maxinne to be continued in the next post

A day in the Bolodo household

2010-01-10T20:44:00.000+08:00

Before you say, "What da hell do I care about your household schedule?", please read on.

Our day starts early at 5AM on school days and a lot later on holidays and weekends. My husband or I cook breakfast, helper starts cleaning up, sets the table and then when the kids are awake, we go ahead and eat breakfast. We prepare for school. Toothbrush, dress up, snacks, bags. Milper brings the kids to school except when he's out of town.

After they have left, the house gets cleaned. That's probably the only busy time in the house. Either I or the helper fetch the kids from school. Most of the time, Cedric is at home, sleeping, drinking milk, playing or just walking around the house. The two girls only have class for three hours. They are home before lunch. An afternoon nap is a must for the kids. I highly suggest that to give you some quiet time and for the kids to get recharged after school.

Most of the kids' day is spent playing and playing and playing. For myself, I swing between cooking, taking care of Cedric and working/playing/watching on the computer.

When the sun starts setting, the kids go out and play in the plaza or, yes, in the streets. They get back home for dinner, wash up and change to their PJs. Nighttimes are spent lazing around after dinner and doing homeworks. All of our meals are in the dining table and eaten together except for dinner when Milper does not get home early enough for the kids' dinnertime.

Why am I telling you all about this? Because I hope that you are also making a routine for your kids. It has worked greatly for us because the kids learn a lot of things and get used to rituals early on in life that I hope would be with them till forever. Rituals like not sleeping without washing your face and brushing your teeth, hanging your towel, putting your clothes in the hamper and putting back their toys in the cabinet after they play and eating their food properly.

Kids like consistency. They like to be assured. (Don't we all?) On a day when we miss a ritual, they ask why have we not done it. It's a companion to discipline and diligence which I hope they will have.

So start on your rituals if you have not done so.

Two girls and a boy

2010-01-09T17:56:00.000+08:00

I have been a mom since 2004. My first child, Camille, was born in January of that year. After Camille came Maxinne, born in August of the next year and then, our first son, Cedric, born in 2008. Now that there are three of them, all active and talking a lot, I sometimes don't know how they came to be.

After six years and three children, I think that I could practically write a book on motherhood, pregnancy, childrearing, nutrition and the like. I know a lot of mothers who feel that way, not that they tell me. I sense it when I talk to some of them. You can feel the "expertise" in the way they shareSee advice and talk about children.

This blog just might do that. But for the most part, it will be just my outlet. A lot of moms need an outlet, a vent of some sort. They need one not necessarily out of frustration but just for expression.

So, I hope that we could be together on this expression of sorts. This will be a blog of short notes, easy reading and maybe some handy tips or two for the new mom. If you are a mom like me, I assure you that you can relate (unless you have a batallion of maids).

I hope to see you in my next post.